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Sabine Hrechdakian's avatar

Beautiful, Nellie. Grateful for the work you're doing and the time you're taking to share your insights with us.

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EverGrief's avatar

SO glad to have read these words. Thank you for sharing them with the substack world.

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Nellie Hermann's avatar

Thank you for reading!!

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Margaret Anne Cunney's avatar

So good to read about this work you are doing - loss is all around us.

When you quoted about how clay is malleable but when cold it hardens and becomes stuck I was immediately reminded of the poem:

Rebus by Jane Hirshfield

You work with what you are given,

the red clay of grief,

the black clay of stubbornness going on after.

Clay that tastes of care or carelessness,

clay that smells of the bottoms of rivers or dust.

Each thought is a life you have lived or failed to live,

each word is a dish you have eaten or left on the table.

There are honeys so bitter

no one would willingly choose to take them.

The clay takes them: honey of weariness, honey of vanity,

honey of cruelty, fear.

This rebus—slip and stubbornness,

bottom of river, my own consumed life—

when will I learn to read it

plainly, slowly, uncolored by hope or desire?

Not to understand it, only to see.

As water given sugar sweetens, given salt grows salty,

we become our choices.

Each yes, each no continues,

this one a ladder, that one an anvil or cup.

The ladder leans into its darkness.

The anvil leans into its silence.

The cup sits empty.

How can I enter this question the clay has asked?

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Nellie Hermann's avatar

So beautiful, thanks so much for sharing this Anne <3

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Jenessa Abrams's avatar

This is exquisite.

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Nellie Hermann's avatar

♥️

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